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Friday, February 18, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Men are more willing to sacrifice in the Romantic relationship
The notion that women are the ones that think with their hearts and not their heads when in love has just been busted with the finding that men are the ones who are more willing to sacrifice achievement goals for a romantic relationship.
The finding is based on a study by Catherine Mosher of Duke Medical Center and Sharon Danoff-Burg from the University of Albany.
As a part of their study the two researchers analyzed 237 undergraduate students 80 men and 157 women aged 16 to 25 years to check whether personality traits influence students' life goals. They focused on the relative importance of romantic relationships and achievement goals in particular.
This involved them looking at 'agency', or the focus on oneself and the formation of separations, including self-assertion, self-protection, and self-direction, as well as 'communion', or the focus on other people and relationships, which involves group participation, cooperation and formation of attachments.
They found that in general, women tend to score higher on measures of communion whereas men tend to score higher than women on measures of agency.
This means that men were more likely than women to give priority to a romantic relationship when asked to choose between a relationship and their career, education and traveling.
The authors suggest that college women in this study may have been strongly committed to working towards a successful career and therefore hesitant to abandon their goals for a romantic relationship.
In contrast to women, men also appear to derive more emotional support from their opposite-sex relationships than their same-sex friendships.
The finding is based on a study by Catherine Mosher of Duke Medical Center and Sharon Danoff-Burg from the University of Albany.
As a part of their study the two researchers analyzed 237 undergraduate students 80 men and 157 women aged 16 to 25 years to check whether personality traits influence students' life goals. They focused on the relative importance of romantic relationships and achievement goals in particular.
This involved them looking at 'agency', or the focus on oneself and the formation of separations, including self-assertion, self-protection, and self-direction, as well as 'communion', or the focus on other people and relationships, which involves group participation, cooperation and formation of attachments.
They found that in general, women tend to score higher on measures of communion whereas men tend to score higher than women on measures of agency.
This means that men were more likely than women to give priority to a romantic relationship when asked to choose between a relationship and their career, education and traveling.
The authors suggest that college women in this study may have been strongly committed to working towards a successful career and therefore hesitant to abandon their goals for a romantic relationship.
In contrast to women, men also appear to derive more emotional support from their opposite-sex relationships than their same-sex friendships.
Saturday, February 5, 2011
'Love at first sight' is all about sex and ego, not romance
I got this post from the MID-DAY website.
Couples in love often profess that the first look was enough for them to know that their partners were 'The One'. Scientists, however, beg to differ, and say that the first look is not so much about romance, but about ego and sex.
To find out if this really were true, Dr Ben Jones in the Face Research Laboratory at the University of Aberdeen and a team of researchers carried out a study that involved volunteers looking at four different sets of digital images - women looking happy, women looking disgusted, men looking happy and men looking disgusted.
In each case, the boffins paired together images that were identical except that in one the person was looking directly at the camera and in the other their gaze was averted.
The volunteers were then asked to rate the relative attractiveness of the images in each pair.
The researchers found that attraction is based on social cues that say, "I'm interested in you", the most important one being someone looking directly at you.
Based on the volunteers' input, the team found that a direct stare is attractive only if the person giving it looks as if they like you.
This preference was even higher if the face in the picture was of the opposite sex.
"It does seem to be a sort of narcissistic thing. People are attracted to people who are attracted to them," the Guardian Unlimited quoted Dr Jones, as saying.
"It's really a very basic effect that we are all, at some level at least, aware of - which is that if you smile at people and you maintain eye contact, it makes you more attractive.
"Social signals about how attracted someone else is to you actually seem to be quite important. You are attracted to people who are attracted to you, and that shows attractiveness is not just about physical beauty.
"What we found at the most basic level is that people like faces with direct gaze more than they like the same faces with averted gaze. In other words, people find it more attractive when they are being looked at.
"It takes quite a lot of effort to attract a mate and what you want to do is allocate that effort in a more efficient way, in other words in a way that is more likely to help you secure a mate."
The results are published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society.
To find out if this really were true, Dr Ben Jones in the Face Research Laboratory at the University of Aberdeen and a team of researchers carried out a study that involved volunteers looking at four different sets of digital images - women looking happy, women looking disgusted, men looking happy and men looking disgusted.
In each case, the boffins paired together images that were identical except that in one the person was looking directly at the camera and in the other their gaze was averted.
The volunteers were then asked to rate the relative attractiveness of the images in each pair.
The researchers found that attraction is based on social cues that say, "I'm interested in you", the most important one being someone looking directly at you.
Based on the volunteers' input, the team found that a direct stare is attractive only if the person giving it looks as if they like you.
This preference was even higher if the face in the picture was of the opposite sex.
"It does seem to be a sort of narcissistic thing. People are attracted to people who are attracted to them," the Guardian Unlimited quoted Dr Jones, as saying.
"It's really a very basic effect that we are all, at some level at least, aware of - which is that if you smile at people and you maintain eye contact, it makes you more attractive.
"Social signals about how attracted someone else is to you actually seem to be quite important. You are attracted to people who are attracted to you, and that shows attractiveness is not just about physical beauty.
"What we found at the most basic level is that people like faces with direct gaze more than they like the same faces with averted gaze. In other words, people find it more attractive when they are being looked at.
"It takes quite a lot of effort to attract a mate and what you want to do is allocate that effort in a more efficient way, in other words in a way that is more likely to help you secure a mate."
The results are published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society.
Family with 18 children and expecting more children
The family that prays together... gets bigger and bigger: Meet devoutly Christian Mr and Mrs Bates and their EIGHTEEN children
Super-parents Gil and Kelly Bates love babies so much, they can't stop having them.
The couple, from Tennessee, U.S., celebrated the birth of their 18th child a month ago and are already praying for more.
The Bates look set to become the biggest family in the world one day, and are one baby behind the Duggars of Arkansas, who have 19.
'We will have many more children if God allows it,' said proud dad Gil, 45, a tree surgeon.
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| The Bates family (from left to right): Ellie, Addallee, Isaiah, Warden, Jackson, Katie, Josie, Carlin, Trace, Tori, Alyssa, Nathan, Lawson, Erin, Michaella, Kelly holding Judson Wyatt and Gil holding Callie-Anna |
'Children are a blessing and God has blessed us many, many times.'
Devoted mum Kelly, 43, said: 'We just love children and every baby brings extra joy to our family. The most exciting time is when a new baby comes.
'We all wonder are the boys going to be ahead, or are the girls going to be ahead?'
The couple married 23 years ago, and Kelly has been pregnant for almost every year.
Their massive brood range includes Zach, 21, Michaela, 20, Erin, 18, Lawson, 17, Nathan, 16, Alyssa, 15, Tori, 14, Trace, 13, Carlin, 12, Josie, 11, Katie, 10, Jackson, 8, Warden, 7, Isaiah, 5, Addallee, 4, Ellie, 3, Callie-Anna, 1, and Judson Wyatt, one month.
Feeding the five thousand: The family fill up half a restaurant when they go out on in Lake city, Tennessee - and their own dining table is so large Dad Gil says he can't hear what's going on at the far end
Dad Gil is busy extending their home which already has five bedrooms, eight bathrooms, two kitchens, a huge dining room with a 14ft table and its own nursery and a schoolroom.
The Bateses make many of their own clothes and refuse to have a TV in the house, spending their spare time playing games, singing and playing instruments.
At weekends they go out singing together at old people's homes to spread goodwill.
Expanding home: Gil, a tree surgeon, is currently extending their five-bedroom, eight-bathroom property in Lake City to make more space
Gil runs a tree surgery business with some of his older sons while Kelly, a housewife, teaches all the younger children at home.
The family gets through a massive amount of food each week - polishing off 48 eggs, four packs of bacon, 40 scones and two large loaves of bread each breakfast time.
Recent additions: Gil and Kelly met at college in 1996, married in 1997 and she fell pregnant soon after. Here they are holding Callie-Anna and Judson
Most recent additions: Gil and Kelly met at college in 1986, married in 1987 and she fell pregnant soon after. Here they are holding Callie-Anna, one, and month-old Judson Wyatt
'The dining table is so big I can't really hear the people at the far end,' said Gil.
The house has four huge washing machines and two industrial dryers to cope with the seven loads of washing that needs to be done every day.
'The kids are very responsible and caring of each other,' said Kelly.
'I hardly even cook these days.'
Gil and Kelly met at college in South Carolina in 1986.
They married in 1987 and Kelly fell pregnant soon after.
'I didn't want any children at all when I was younger,' said Kelly. 'I wanted to be a career woman. I didn't enjoy babysitting. But over time God changed my heart.'
After Gil finished college, the babies came thick and fast. For the first 15 years Kelly was pregnant every single year.
'I was pregnant more than I wasn't pregnant,' said Kelly.
'I always loved having lots of brothers and sisters,' said Zach, the eldest, 21, who is a volunteer fire fighter, as well as working for his dad.
'There's always someone to play with. There's always a friend. I don't know what being lonely feels like.'
After the couple's 16th child, Ellie, now three, Kelly suffered two miscarriages.
'That was one of the hardest times in our lives,' said Gil, who has delivered 11 of his children.
Doctors told Kelly that the miscarriages were caused by low progesterone levels so, after some hormone replacement, she fell pregnant yet again.
Spreading goodwill: At weekends, the family go out singing at old people's homes. 'We wouldn't change our family for the world,' says Nathan, 17
Baby number 17, Callie-Anna Bates, was born on August 2, 2009.
On September 15, 2010 Judson Wyatt, the family's eighth boy and 18th child was born.
The brothers and sisters sometimes argue but the Bates' say they are usually one big happy family.
Nathan, 17, said: 'None of us would change our family for the world.
'It's currently eight boys and ten girls.
'We've got a bit of a race going and Mom needs to have two more boys to settle it.'
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